My husband passed away

I'm so sorry for your loss! It is a painful thing to be separated by death from those we love. I'll be praying for you, and will leave this verse with you:

And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away. (Rev 21:4)

I'm looking forward to that day!

 

I found on pastoral visitations, I had the surviving member talk about the deceased partner, and it didn't take long to create a smile. People tend to shun visitation from about the third week when sorrow seems to strike home. They say they don't know what to talk about.

I have also suggested the surviving member write a personal letter to the deceased and reiterate memorable moments.

My favourite scripture is: "This is the day the LORD has made, I will be glad and rejoice in it." It leaves no option but to rejoice in the day.

Every blessing in Him,

Jim

 

joy, everybody deals with a loss such as yours in different ways. I learned a lot (and so will you) about how to relate to people who's spouses have died.

It happened to me 20 years ago, when my wife was fatally injured in a traffic accident. From my own experience I learned these things that may help you:

You're supposed to hurt. A part of you has been ripped away from you.

You're supposed to cry.

People said I was strong during that time. I didn't feel strong. But what strength I had God gave me.

Find friends who will stop by and listen. Most people, after they've sympathized, don't know what else to do, or say. And they're afraid if they bring up the death, it'll trigger crying on your part. Your friends don't have to say anything. They just need to listen.

I had a colleague at work who told me, "I've got two good ears." You wanna talk? Holler."

Every day around 3 o'clock, she'd drop by my office with a smile on he face. "Sanity check time," she'd say. Some days I was okay, but most days I wanted to talk about her, my feelings, my reactions to things, even some things God did for me at the lowest moment of my life. Sometimes it produced tears in both of us, but that was okay.

Bottom line, I didn't need for people to give me advice. I needed people to listen. And sometimes cry with me.

You've got some good friends who don't quite know what to do for you. Call 'em up and invite them over. Or go to their houses, and talk. And, it's okay to laugh.

Do you have children. Talk to them about your feelings. Let them talk to you about theirs. Just tell them, "I don't ever want you to forget your daddy. That means we want to remember the good times, but we have to remember the bad times, too. Tohat's because I want your memories of your Dad sharp and clear. I don't ever want you to forget him."

Sometimes, something will trigger tears. Don't worry about it (unless, of course you're driving down the road). It's normal.

This is going to hurt for a good while. It's supposed to. You're not ever going to get over it. But you will get through it, by God's grace

I didn't go to grief support groups, or even singles groups. But if you think they'll help, go for it.

 

Jesus wept at Lazarus' tomb because He shares our griefs and sorrows and is touched by our feelings. We, too, share in the grief of your great loss. Here is a verse that the Lord has used to help me in times of grief:

Jer. 29:11 "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end."

I also like the hymn, "How Firm a Foundation", and especially comforting is the verse:
When through fiery trials thy pathway shall lie,
My grace, all sufficient, shall be thy supply:
The flame shall not hurt thee; I only design
Thy dross to consume and thy gold to refine.

May the Lord be your ever present help and comfort in this time of your intense grief. May the Lord be with you and bless you.

 

I am so sorry for you loss.

I am praying for you.

 

Joy, I'm so sorry for your loss.

This verse is one of my favorites: I Corinthians 3:12.

"For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known."

I know in the context, it is referring to spiritual gifts, but it goes so much deeper than that. When I read that verse, I hear it telling me, telling us, that we do not and cannot understand everything right now. The things we long for, hope for, and don't understand, the things that seem to want to break us down...we respond that way because we cannot see or understand them. We don't know why. We just know we don't like it, and we cry out.

But we have comfort in knowing that one day, we won't see through clouded vision anymore. That grief and pain will be taken away and replaced with knowledge, which leads to understanding. We're told that our Father will wipe away our tears. We will have JOY. Yeah, stinks that we have to wait for it, but it is of great comfort to look forward to that day and know, we KNOW it will happen. Try to think about that time as much as possible, let the idea of it, the thought of light and joy, enter back into your heart a bit more every day as you remember the promises God gave us, as you remember the gift God gave us in the birth of Christ to ensure those promises are fulfilled.

And never forget that all things work together and facing the day will become more tolerable. God is faithful in all and to all, and all includes you.

So these are your words to repeat to yourself.

1. Light
2. Understanding
3. Joy
4. ALL

 

I am so sorry to hear that. To add to the Scripture, remember the enemy will be on the offensive now...hard. Remember HALT. As he tried to do with Jesus in the wilderness, he will attack you when you are hungry, angry, lonely and tired. I think its safe to say most apply to you. You will get through this by God's grace. These things either cause people to run to God or away from Him. Be sure its the former.

 

Weeping endures for the night, but joy comes in the morning.

I am praying for your morning to come soon.

 

Resurrection, eternal life!

God is going to be comforting you during your grieving time.
God has promised that He is coming again and we live with Him for eternal!!
God loves you.
We do not know God's plan for you,but they are not plans to harm you!! He has promised that He will never leave you!! Never forsake you!
I will be sharing the verses with their "addresses" from the Bible for you later.
You will be in my prayers!!

 

Psalm 34:18
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit

Psalm 37:39
The salvation of the righteous comes from the LORD; he is their stronghold in time of trouble

Psalm 46:1-2
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea.

Proverbs 14:32
When calamity comes, the wicked are brought down, but even in death the righteous have a refuge.

Isaiah 25:8
He will swallow up death forever. The Sovereign LORD will wipe away the tears from all faces; he will remove the disgrace of his people from all the earth. The LORD has spoken.

Isaiah 40:18-31
Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.

Isaiah 49:14-16
But Zion said, "The LORD has forsaken me, the Lord has forgotten me." "Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands; your walls are ever before me."

Isaiah 51:3
The LORD will surely comfort Zion
and will look with compassion on all her ruins;
he will make her deserts like Eden,
her wastelands like the garden of the LORD.
Joy and gladness will be found in her,
thanksgiving and the sound of singing.

Isaiah 54:10
"Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed," says the LORD, who has compassion on you.

Isaiah 66:12-14
For this is what the LORD says:
"I will extend peace to her like a river,
and the wealth of nations like a flooding stream;
you will nurse and be carried on her arm
and dandled on her knees.
As a mother comforts her child,
so will I comfort you;
and you will be comforted over Jerusalem."
When you see this, your heart will rejoice
and you will flourish like grass;
the hand of the LORD will be made known to his servants,
but his fury will be shown to his foes.

Lamentations 3:31-33
For men are not cast off by the Lord forever.Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love.For he does not willingly bring affliction or grief to the children of men.

Hosea 13:14
"I will ransom them from the power of the grave [a] ; I will redeem them from death. Where, O death, are your plagues? Where, O grave, is your destruction?

Nahum 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him,

Matthew 5:4
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.

1 Peter 5:6-7
Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

Revelation 7:15-17
And he said, "These are they who have come out of the great tribulation; they have washed their robes and made them white in the blood of the Lamb. Therefore, "they are before the throne of God and serve him day and night in his temple; and he who sits on the throne will spread his tent over them. Never again will they hunger; never again will they thirst. The sun will not beat upon them, nor any scorching heat. For the Lamb at the center of the throne will be their shepherd; he will lead them to springs of living water. And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes."

Revelation 21:4
He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away."

 

Joy, this is Pat aka grannygumbo... I may have sent the pm wrong and then too, I've been away for quite some time - I do notice my pic is missing. Take care. xo

 

There are 2 passages that have helped me. I Peter 5:7 "Casting all your care upon Him, for He careth for you." Also Psalm 13. David calls out to God "Hey, it's me! Did you forget me?" and then he remembers that God has always taken care of me in the past, and I know He will continue to do so.