Pastor & family, should they tend same church

Joshua, I don't know if it's helping a whole lot. Many churches still expect a "2 for the price of 1" kinda deal. In many quarters, the wife is expected to be a pianist, vocalist, WMU leaders, SS teacher, and the list can go on.

I hope churches will be more understanding.

 

There should be no more expectations on a pastor's spouse than there are on any other member of the congregation. The position of "pastor's spouse" does not entitle that person to some sort of special leadership position or give them special authority, as I have seen happen at many churches. Once, the pastor's wife ran a company, and some members had problems with that because it made her unable to fulfill some of her "responsibilites." Yeh, the responsibilities she never took on, but that they thought she should because she was "Pastor's wife."

 

What about us small country pastors? There's no one in the church my wifes age and few children my childrens ages. Would it be wrong for my wife and kids to go downtown to the big 1st Bap church were they could spiritually be better ministered to? I'm not about to do this because I know it wouldn't work and overall wouldn't be best, but I've considered it.

 

Trapper,
That is a tough situation. Does the larger church have mid-week children's services? I would take my children to those services, just for the fellowship. All the very best to you and yours.

Cheers,

Jim

 

Thank you, Willow. 8o)

 

Pastor Gib Woods on his first serman when called to Pastor Rheinland Baptist Church in Germany asked his wife to stand up and introduced her. Then said, "This is MY Wife! Her job is MY Wife, to mother our children. That's it! She is not the wife of this church. She is my wife. (They had five children) If you have a problem with one of my kids. You are not to go to her. You are to come to me and I will take care of it. Period."

I wanted to stand up and cheer for him!

Becky

 

Squire Robertsson said:

I have to agree. What does that say for the Pastor if his own family goes somewhere else. Doesn't that also say his wife is not submissive and is also rebellious of her husbands decisions. Kind of makes him look like a fool, and say to others, His wife is not supportive of his decisions. Very disobedient! And disrespectful!

Sherrie

 

My wife was, is and remains an Anglican. She always attended and participated in Baptist Churches I served as minister. She did not take communion, except in one church, where the invitation came directly from the Deacon's Board.

We never had a problem in any church because she remained Anglican, and the odd time she went to the Anglican Church to celebrate communion.

I don't think there needs to be a problem in a family going in different directions, whilst the ideal perhaps is togetherness.

Cheers,

Jim

 

I'm one who believes that the family that prays together stays together. But does prayer involve worship?

Here's a slight side issue. I know of two church organists. They attend different churches. Why? Because they attend the churches they work at on Sunday mornings. Additionally (now here's the kicker) one of them is organist for the local NHL hockey games, and the other is organist for the local MLB Baseball games. How cool of a job is that???

Now as far as kids over, say, 16, that should be up to the kids on where they attend. But as far as spouse, while it would be nice if she (or he) attended services where the spouse pastored, I don't see it as a requirement, not biblically, and not in accordance to SBC guidelines.

 

the split places the family under the authority of another local church.

In Abiyah's home situation, that doesn't appear to be the case.